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Post by Jupiter on Sept 26, 2020 21:57:14 GMT
I don't get SE 'B' female culture
When it comes to dating I don't get South East 'B' female culture, here's what I see and observe
1. Raised with no Father figure, like males are, as such when grown, make terrible decisions when it comes to picking suitable mate, no Father around to 'vet' or challenge potential date.
2. Walk around, leave house, dressed like 'street walker' by age 15, and by doing so become a magnet to all 'thug males' in area, and end up being rapped about in rap song.
3. By age 20, if wasn't wise enough to go to college, than already burned out on life and men, and simply become baby producing factory.
4. By age 25-30 bitterness sets in, mainly towards 'black men', who you think let you down and robbed you or charmed life you hear in love songs.
5. 30-40...nothing, no culture, no dreams, 'who am I'..
5. And then by age 45 begin to 'wake up again' and realize all you've been taught earlier, by hood culture, was a pile of crock.
And that's all I really see on the street level when it comes to black women.
Try to converse with them and their eyes just go blank, as if not use to a smart man...'Hey, you'ze suppose to be stupid like the guys from my hood are'....you can see them thinking to themselves.
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The women I connect most with are women of 'color', not black women, but women of color, ethnic women of all color who have culture and like a smart type of guy.
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Post by Jupiter on Oct 2, 2020 21:59:00 GMT
I just don't go out anymore, sadly to say I just don't go out anymore, as a older single person, sadly to say. I mean where am I going to go? When single, and go out, you're interpited more as a 'stalker' than someone women/men want to meet and greet with...sad out loud (is there such an expression?). Hell, your own family begins to shun you after a while if remain single for to long, yet do nothing to help you 'pair' with anyone, I guess they figure you should be able to do that on your on, and then act surprised when bring home a ax murderer as your date. mygospel88.podbean.com/mf/play/2fyiz8/3rd_ed_SLM_all_over_the_map_with_issues.mp3 = podcast view on being single and being lonely are two different things. If alive, but sorry, if alive, you don't want to feel lonely, but at the same time there may not be anyone for you, so what do you do??? Listen to podcast and decide.
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Post by Jupiter on Oct 2, 2020 23:04:56 GMT
Other than that I'm such a people person, in real realm folks love me, especially when I go out, or use to
going out is fun, was fun.
I just don't anymore...why not?
Cause times have changed I guess, and so have I a bit...well honestly I haven't, if anything a born again party rebel...lol.
But ye, times have changed, corona, people are paranoid, and more.
And now you have violent criminals running around shooting people, creating havoc, not for a cause, but just for the fun of it.
You could go out, be a saint, and still get shot or beat up, just by random...just by being in wrong spot at wrong moment.
In my day it wasn't like that.
I don't know, it's just a different time now, people no longer know how to seperate politics from Friday or Saturday night...here me.
Maybe I should create a club where such is still possible...a club where no politics allowed...for 30 and older types, just show up, let loose and have fun...like days of old, like how 'we' remember how our parents grooved when we were younger...
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Post by Jupiter on Nov 1, 2020 16:16:37 GMT
I've been single for so long, not sure how I'd behave in a relationship
I've been single for so long, not sure how I'd behave in a relationship.
I get lonely at times, for sure, like most people do, but then ask myself would I want to be in a relationship when not lonely?
Would the person I'm with become an annoyance when not lonely?
I think, know, couples deal with this all the time, it's why couples split up, it's why there are divorces.
What I really want and need is a friend, and for it to go further it would have to be a friend that was attractive to me.
Tastes, that's another thing, seems the older you get the more picky you become.
I mean it's one thing to like people in general, it's another thing to allow someone to get close up on you in a romantic way.
And tastes vary, what's ugly to one is a bombshell to another and what's a bombshell to another can be ugly to one.
Some guys have traits I wish females had, and some females have traits I wish guys had more of.
I think I'm just to complexx to ever be able to actually find the right one, more than likely someone would have to first see qualities in me they like.
And when single for years, you tend to become very plural in how you approach things.
A standard women doesn't want to hear anything about being plural, so most guy just fake it (repeat that to yourself)
Most women just want that standard 'man', dull on the inside man who's sole purpose for existing is taking care of 'me', the self centered woman says to herself.
So most guys, or even gals, have to 'shrink' back into a nice little package their mate can recognize....and again I don't know if I can do that.
If in love I could, love will always make you do things you wouldn't if not in love.
But most times you're not with person long enough for love to develop, and now days seems all people want is 'sex', and that's it.
Give them sox, and then just vanish till they want it again, seems to be the modern way of doing things now.
I mean my gosh if show any interest in meeting the opposite sox, or even the same sox, all you get is hit with sick nasty adds.
I think gross, sick nasty adds are meant for those already in relationships who like to cheat.
But those who are truly single, and alone, I don't think like those type of sick adds at all, cause those sick sleezy adult adds totally cheapon your sense of loneliness.
And I think older people are leading the charge on sleeze, I guess when older, feel have a short time left, and so just 'go for it' while still can, seems to be the mindset of many.
Me though, I still desire a old fashion relationship, one on one, no cheating, nothing, just two people together.
That must really make me strange now, on top of everything else.
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Post by Jupiter on Nov 9, 2020 4:51:58 GMT
The thing about datelines now days The risky thing about dateline these days is that they're just so full of scammers, even the sites themselves can be scams, in that of course you have to pay, or in some cases pay for 'phone time', so what do they do? They 'Lure' you on by making it seem someone is interested in you, that way you keep adding money just so can talk to this person, who often times just ends up being a 'bot'. So you waste $100.00 bucks, chasing a bot. That could of been a brand new pair of shoes, or security cam, or groceries, or new tires for vehicle, or new TV or whatever, but instead waste it on chatting with a 'bot'. I do want to meet someone, seems impossible though for me, cause I'm so picky, and so are the people I'm attracted to. For example, I like women with soft hands, and short nails, the only women I see with hands like this are 20 something year old 'W' females. They have like bright nail polish, but their nails are short, like a guys would be, and their hands, fingers are narrow and 'fem' or 'boyish'. Practical hands, what I call them. Where as 'B' females tend to have swollen looking fingers and long jagger knife length finger nails that scare the hell out of me. Yet not all W' women, I see at work with these soft hands have good personalities. And sometimes women with ugly hands have personalities I like...it's all so confusing yo. I wish I could just build my own perfect mate, like that movie 'Weird science'.  My perfect mate would have good qualities of both genders I like and none of the bad qualities of both genders.
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Post by Jupiter on Dec 1, 2020 23:14:13 GMT
I was about to maybe join a dating site, but then I saw all the different orientations you can be now, I mean even for me, as odd as I am, this is a bit confusing..wow!  I mean my gosh, I'm confused now with all of these options of who I'm suppose to be to self and or another... 
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Post by Jupiter on Dec 1, 2020 23:35:24 GMT
That's some complex stuff, like mathmatics of orientation or something.
I guess who I am kind of depends on who I'm with, and their own personal range, I guess, I don't know.
I mean if I'm with a woman, and I find her attractive and worthy to be my wife, than straight up I'm 100% male, for the sake of breeding and raising a family, end discussion.
But if with someone and not planning on having a family, then it gets complicated, I guess.
Who knows man, gee wiz is the world we live in getting forever more complicated.
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Post by Jupiter on Jan 18, 2021 14:30:58 GMT
Do black folks in the hood, between the ages of say 17-30, even bother with marriage anymore?
I never hear about marriage anymore, not in the hood areas anyways, and rappers certainly never exhault marriage in their lyrics.
I never hear guys saying 'I want to marry that gal', or gals saying 'I want to marry that guy'.
It seems it all just comes down to quick sex now and that's it.
I don't think, from what I observe anyways, that the 'apartment class' of hood mentality types, are even into marriage anymore..I think if a woman has a check coming in, either from job or Gov or both, why would she want to be bothered with a man?, other than when lonely late at night, oops, another baby.
As such, family reunions will all be gone in a few more short years, if not already, cause to have a family reunion you have to have a together extended family, marriages are the foundation for family reunions...you can't just have a bunch of single urban females show up with their kids, and no males or men around..or can you?
I observe the inner city urban black 'structure' continues to go down the tubes.
But mind you not all people of color subscribe to that invented urban mindset, many blacks, as well as people of color still do treasure and value marriage, you just won't find these types living in the hood areas.
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Post by Jupiter on Feb 14, 2021 9:13:43 GMT
Well I have no 'lover' of any kind, so bought like 3 different valentines 'stuff', and gave one away to first female I saw at a job I go to, she's a blue collar female in rough gritty 'mans world' (well not so much anymore, that's a older term), but still, I just needed to give a valentines present to any random person I saw, in this case a female, I think giving it to them meant more to me, than them. Just things seem so dull now, socially dull, people aren't like they use to, now days people just seem trained to hide their emotions and just walk around like 'Spock', on Star Trek, both males and females....that's just the environment we live in now I guess. But not me, I still have emotion, and realize how short life is, and so when can express self, will and do.  |
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Post by Jupiter on Mar 21, 2021 15:57:12 GMT
As a single, working class male of color, dating and romance doesn't exist in my world
As a older, single, working class male of color, dating and romance?...what's that?
1. Online dating?...requires pictures, violation of privacy, and I take bad pics, and I hate the idea of being looked over and then rejected by a lady whom in real life could not hold my water bucket...many women fall of quickly after the age of 35, and even before that, but yet sit at home behind computer judging whether or not they think a guy has a super model body and or face.
2. As a male of color, everyone thinks you're dirty and have no values, or a criminal, sure at work they like and trust you, but away from work it's the same o same o stereotyping, whether 1930 or 2030, it never changes.
3. No once to socialize with at my age, cause most guys my age already married, paired, in deep relationships, and one thing both men and women don't like, when in a relationship, is for their mate to hang out with a single person, the wives become very poseses of their men, and vice versa, and so if single and older, there's no one to hang out with anymore outside of work hours.
4. At least where I stay, women have their fun, sleep around, when younger and stupid, have their babies, ect, then when a bit older, have been hurt by the very men THEY chose to date when younger, now these same women 'close off emotionally', become introverted, angry, shy, mean, ect...and or even Lesbian.
Especially with black females, I'm seeing more and more Lesbian arrangments, even though they won't call it that, but you can tell, all around me females living with females, I'm one of the few responsible single men holding their own, but seems all around me females living with other females, and they're not friendly or sociable either, if anything I'm the odd one out cause I'm a responsible employed male, and around here that's rare, most men 'mooch' off of women while in and out of jail ect...I don't not, you'd think that would be a good thing, but here it's not.
Even when you're good, people still suspect you're bad...maybe cause on the inside they're bad, so they can't imagine anyone really being good.
Either way, around here, my dating life has totally died, has been dead, and probably will stay that way until I leave this area, cause again, the whole dating site stuff has never worked for me, and today, even if tried again, way way to many bots, or fake accounts designed to just keep you pumping money in to dating site, just so another fake bot account can string you along.
Real life is the best way to meet people, but with everything closed, or when single, where does one go to do that?...a bar?, a club (no way), the beach? (people don't go to the beach to meet others, people usually go to the beach in their own closed off social groups), the gym?...way to obvious.
I just don't know anymore, and no, not going to go sit up in some church to meet some lady under the spell of the Pastor who has 4 kids, who slept around when younger and now seeking responsible male, if they ignored me when I was in my prime, not sure what makes them think I want them now, their left over emotions and all.
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Post by Jupiter on Mar 21, 2021 16:21:22 GMT
Also, if you try to look someone's records up, or their past criminal history up using anything but official State or Government records, it's a scam, these 'locate someone' sites speculate about your background, make it seem dirty, in order for you to 'pay' to view full profile, and even then, if they're not government agency, it's not 'full' cause the info they claim to have on you is private.
So these sites 'scare' you in hopes you'll 'pay' to have your online profile cleaned up, but so say you pay them to stop suggesting bad things about you, well now there's 1000 other similar sites that do the same thing..
But stupid people don't realize this and so before they date you, they may type your name in and get some scam site that makes you look shady...'This person may have a felony, for $40.00 yearly subscription find out about them and others'.......so goes the scam.
But sadly man sexy people also happen to be stupid, so when a sexy person goes to one of these scam sites and sees a profile they think is 'you', now you've just lost a date.
What these scam identity sites do should be against the law, I'm going to see in fact if it is...cause I think it's equivelent to slander if these 'search a person' sites making it seem you're worse than you really are by suggesting awful things...
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Post by Jupiter on Apr 18, 2021 22:18:16 GMT
Ugly is Ugly
I realize now, that when younger 'Hormones' blinds you to looks.
Cause when older and Hormone levels begin to drop, you notice every single thing about a ugly male/female, and are like 'hell no!'.
Imperfections you would of tolerated years ago, when younger and full of hormones, can't slip past you now.
And in a way that's a curse, cause no one is physically perfect, no one.
Not even you or I.
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Post by Jupiter on Apr 25, 2021 20:24:36 GMT
If a 'black' male or considered as such, if you date, marry, a 'black' female who was raised without a Father, your relationship with them, your marriage, is about 95% doomed to fail
If a male, particulalry a black male, and dating or planning on marrying a woman who is also considered 'black', than please avoid those females who were raised without a strong man or Father in their house when younger, for if not, and you continue on in this relationship it's pretty much doomed to fail!
Unless a black female raised with sturdy Father in the home, when you try to exert your 'Fatherly behavior' onto family, onto your child, onto your wife, she will see you as a 'monster' and quickly break up the relationship, thus the reason why so many females in the 'hood areas' raise kids alone or with other females...man not needed, according to their mindset.
Men, avoid marrying, dating, females who did not have a loving Dad in the home when they were raised or ultimately they will not understand you once the 'lust' wears off.
You've been warned in advance.
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Post by Jupiter on Feb 10, 2022 5:18:19 GMT
I've been single for so long I can't even imagine
I've been single for so long I can't even imagine
1. Coming home and having someone there waiting on you, or just there doing their on thing. But the point is, to come home with 'life' in it, rather than just to an empty place.
2. Eating with someone once home.
3. Sharing the same bed with someone just cause you want to or out of custom or habit, as in married or just a live together relationship
4. Just having someone to hang out with 24/7, as in when not working at job.
5. having someone to get romantic with, instead of images or 'videos online'
6. Having someone care about you when you're sick.
And I could go on and on and on.
I'm so use to being single, just not sure how I'd handle being in a relationship again.
Also, I'm older now and not as horny as I use to be, when younger and horny, you're horniness covers over a lot of physical flaws of your partner, but now that older and not as horny, would I notice very single flaw in another if living together or married?
Or just having someone in your presence that you could just make love to whenever you wanted to (I'm sure people in relationships would argue against that belief).
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Seems now all older women want to do is fool around, and then post their exploits on adult tube channels.
In the past they always said it was the guy or males who weren't interested in romantic relationships, well now days I think it's the women, at least older ones, who could really care the less about romance, and just want wild sex every now and then from a guy.
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Post by Jupiter on Mar 8, 2022 3:16:44 GMT
In real life, people act all uptight, nervious and scared of one another, yet on 'Tube' sites, you see folks getting it on with complete strangers
Yes, in real life, folks walk around all scared, uptight, women act all nervious and afraid.
yet I go to an adult tube site and that same lady be like having 18 men up in her bed and all, with the Husband filming it.
I mean why can't I ever be lucky enough to live next to swingers like that?
Instead all my neighbers seem to be like Nuns, and Priests, and or social inverts, and just people you'd never live next to if didn't have to.
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